Have a tendency (proclivity) to dwelve into the past :(

via Daily Prompt: Proclivity

What is the best way to not look into the past  ??? How does one move forward without any pain whatsoever. A couple of things have helped me –




And my work.

Unless I am completely busy the old thoughts come rolling back. They negate all my hard work and I fall back into a hopeless pit.. Embracing midlife can be a daunting task especially when you have a special needs child. And creating a work life balance makes it harder.The  tendency to work  harder when under stress due to several reasons narrows the focus and short-circuits the very habits that helps me cope……



Inner Calling

The time has come where I need to listen to my inner voice/calling  and start to meditate and focus on spirituality. Life has not been easy these past few months .The quality of life has been declining and most times I am stressed and feel nervous about the future.

But I have also realized that to have a better future I should work on my present moments. Just speculating on what might happen and worrying about the unknown is getting me nowhere. All it is doing is taking away my precious PRESENT !!! It is  freezing me from performing what is needed.

I need to sit relax and meditate on a plan of action for what is at stake currently and challenge myself  to do my best. The rest I need to leave and not worry about as said in Bhagawad Geetha :

“Karmanye Vadhikaraste

Maa Phaleshu Kadachana,

Maa Karma Phala Hetur Bhur

Maa Te Sangostva Akarmani”

 Chapter 2, Sloka 47

Meaning -You have the right to perform your actions, but you are not entitled to the fruits of the actions.
Do not let the fruit be the purpose of your actions, and therefore you won’t be attached to not doing your duty….

CARE DEEPLY but not to the point of being blinded by love leading to inaction.


via Daily Prompt: Calling


Teenage connect …

Why is it so hard as an adult to relate to the teenage universe , especially in this modern era of technology. We have all been teenagers at some point in our life.If every adult (100%) has been a teenager, why do we think teenagers are so strange and so disconnected from us….

I find a giant disconnect between myself and my teen daughter aged 15- two different perspectives that has made communicating a real mystery. Just when I feel I have become best friends with her I discover she is trying to shut me off.

What is the secret that underlies some teens whizzing through their teen years easily and while some others struggle through every bit of it ???? I am sure many parents relate to this thought..

It has been a stressful two years wherein I am learning to walk the tightrope.The great illusion as parents we have is that if we knew all our children’s secrets we could be in better control of our child’s behavior and “Keep them from making mistakes or doing something wrong.” WRONG !!!

What I have learnt is  “Parents, at some point in the  child’s life,  should move from protecting the  child to teaching them how to make good choices. That learning to make choices part scares most of us parents. What if they make a mistake? But the trick lies in being patient and letting them make those choices/mistakes for better or worse.


img_4070via Daily Prompt: Relate


The true meaning of the life lies gently beneath the surface . Our challenges are what help  define us  as a person and what guides us to becoming who we are . What greater challenge can there be than staying calm under tremendous pressure ??  More so, if that is our own fear , anxiety, depression, desolation, and despair….

FAITH and HOPE are the two ingredients  that help us cross the cruel and endless sea of life.



This could mean several things . But in this instance I mean tone down ones expectations. Age certainly has helped me  tone down the lofty expectations I had, but they have never fully disappeared…

It is one of those things that is like a heavy baggage that one carries around all the time.If we allow expectations to determine the happiness we feel in regards to a certain situation, the chances that we will be satisfied are slim.

In all reality, if things always happened the way we hoped or expected, life would be utterly predictable and completely unexciting. The possibilities in life are endless, but if we are resistant to letting life unfold as it is meant to, we tend to paint unexpected occurrences in a negative light…..

Let go !!!!!  Holding on  to expectations goes against life’s flow. It makes reality unbearable when it doesn’t need to be…

Managing ones expectations is key to happiness.


Why is the color blue associated with sadness ????

Blue though is my favorite color. To me it represents peace and tranquility. My wardrobe is filled with variations of blue for both western and Indian outfits.

I’ve always wondered though why people use the term “feeling blue” when they are sad.My take on it  :

“Your attitude is like a box of crayons that color your world. Constantly color your picture gray, and your picture will always be bleak. Try adding some bright colors to the picture by including humor, and your picture begins to lighten up.” — Allen Klein

Pictured below is my older daughter against a blue wall in East Village ,NYC