TONE DOWN…

This could mean several things . But in this instance I mean tone down ones expectations. Age certainly has helped me  tone down the lofty expectations I had, but they have never fully disappeared…

It is one of those things that is like a heavy baggage that one carries around all the time.If we allow expectations to determine the happiness we feel in regards to a certain situation, the chances that we will be satisfied are slim.

In all reality, if things always happened the way we hoped or expected, life would be utterly predictable and completely unexciting. The possibilities in life are endless, but if we are resistant to letting life unfold as it is meant to, we tend to paint unexpected occurrences in a negative light…..

Let go !!!!!  Holding on  to expectations goes against life’s flow. It makes reality unbearable when it doesn’t need to be…

Managing ones expectations is key to happiness.

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Tamil New Year -2017

Today is the tamizh new year.  Every new year has a new name to it and this year it is called “Hevilambi “. It is celebrated on the first day of the Hindu Solar Calendar(Chitirai maasam/month). Popularly known as Puthandu,  Tamil New Year which usually falls on April 14th is an occasion that calls for celebration for Tamils all over the world. This is supposedly the day when Lord Brahma (the Creator of the world, according to Hindu mythology) started creation. People exchange greetings of ‘Puthandu Vazthukal’ (Happy New Year) with great fervor on this day.

The highlight of Tamil New Year Festival  among the tamil speaking people is the food . No festival is ever complete without an assortment of dishes .’Maanga Pachadi’ (a dish made of raw mangoes, jaggery and neem flowers) is the special dish of the day, which tastes sweet, salty, spicy , sour and bitter at the same time. This favorite dish of mine symbolizes  – LIFE which is a mixed bag of these flavorsnew.

North Maple Ave

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The Stable as viewed from N Maple Ave

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Holding on to dear life

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Old and withered yet standing tall and strong

While walking down North Maple Ave to take some pictures, I noticed this tree (second photo) holding on to a few leaves and that set me thinking ….

Holding on to dear life-What does it mean ???

Holding on for dear life is our reaction to when life is falling apart, and we desperately need something solid to grab while we weather the storm, so we don’t fall apart too.

We all know that life is constantly changing and nothing is permanent. The phrase can be redefined to mean something else too. There are some things that mean a lot to us and are dear. They give us the comfort and confidence we need to weather any storm – friendship, family, faith, hope, trust, values, morals etc. But we should be ready to let go off the stuff that weighs us down like clutter, guilt, fear, insecurity and anger.

Most importantly, WE SHOULD hold on to each other. We have to hold on, lift each other up, comfort one another.