Teenage connect …

Why is it so hard as an adult to relate to the teenage universe , especially in this modern era of technology. We have all been teenagers at some point in our life.If every adult (100%) has been a teenager, why do we think teenagers are so strange and so disconnected from us….

I find a giant disconnect between myself and my teen daughter aged 15- two different perspectives that has made communicating a real mystery. Just when I feel I have become best friends with her I discover she is trying to shut me off.

What is the secret that underlies some teens whizzing through their teen years easily and while some others struggle through every bit of it ???? I am sure many parents relate to this thought..

It has been a stressful two years wherein I am learning to walk the tightrope.The great illusion as parents we have is that if we knew all our children’s secrets we could be in better control of our child’s behavior and “Keep them from making mistakes or doing something wrong.” WRONG !!!

What I have learnt is  “Parents, at some point in the  child’s life,  should move from protecting the  child to teaching them how to make good choices. That learning to make choices part scares most of us parents. What if they make a mistake? But the trick lies in being patient and letting them make those choices/mistakes for better or worse.


img_4070via Daily Prompt: Relate


A song by Florence and the machine that so aptly describes the feeling.

No light, no light in your bright blue eyes
I never knew daylight could be so violent
A revelation in the light of day
You can’t choose what stays and what fades awayIMG_6037


SHARE, Inc. is a New Jersey non-profit that provides an affordable, home like environment for independent seniors in shared residences located at 104 Cottage Place and 130 Prospect Street in Ridgewood, N.J. It is a non-profit organization with no religious or government affiliation. Plenty of volunteer opportunities available for local teens

We (my daughters and myself) had an amazing evening volunteering to entertain the senior citizens. My younger daughter played the violin and older one sang some Patty Smith songs and a french song for the elderly residents.

The Director of the Program sets up educational workshops every once in a while. And also S.H.A.R.E. Board members, and a variety of visitors and community service workers socialize with residents, facilitate games, arts & crafts, and Holiday and special events, provide music and other entertainment, assist residents with spring clean-up, gardening, and some do needed painting and maintenance projects, etc.

Overall it was a fun day and got to spend some quality time with the seniors. Thanks to Jan Phillips who introduced us to this  amazing place . Will definitely spend more quality time going forward helping the seniors in whatever possible ways we can as a team.

Seeing them reminded me so much about my mom and how I miss being around her.She is thousands of miles away in India and the best I could do is help someone somewhere feel happy in spending some time not being left lonely.




My daughters alonwith seniors and Jan Phillips


Moment of fun !!!



Ex mayor of Ridgewood serving food to the seniors


Program Director, Marianne Bennett